I guess I'm a typical girl.
I have been dreaming about poofy white dresses and champagne toasts and flower combinations and first dance song selections for as long as I can remember. I've been planning the perfect wedding since I was in preschool and got married the first time.
Hell, I even have a dress picked out (from many afternoons spent with engaged friends, pouring over bridal magazines. Come on. A single girl has to find something to entertain herself, and reading stories on wedding etiquette? Not gonna cut it.)
I know what song my dad and I will dance to. I know my sister will make me cry with her maid of honor toast. I know I'm much more likely to wear flip-flops than I am to wear heels. I know I care more about having a great DJ and bar than I do about location or decorations.
The part that trips me up?
The groom.
In all my fantasies as a child, and any inkling of an dream now, there's no man in the picture. Maybe Johnny Depp (yes, in that costume...) once in a while, or Hugh Jackman (definitely minus the Wolverine claws...), but let's be honest - that's more of a wedding night fantasy ;-)
The older I get, the more I become convinced that I'll never get married. When I was eighteen, I figured it was a matter of time and within five years I'd be engaged to Mr. Perfect.
Ten years later, I'm not so optimistic.
Of course, I'm also a lot more independent. A lot more confident that if I end up alone, I'll be okay. It might not be ideal, but I know that I'll be fine whatever way my life works out.
People always say that this changes when you meet the right person. That suddenly, you'll just be ready to start your life with someone you love.
I'm definitely not there. Not even close. Even the men I've been almost sure I loved, I could never see a future together. I don't know if that says more about the relationships, or me. I hope I find that someday. But until then?
I just want the party. The dress. The dancing. All the stupid traditions.
And if I meet someone who makes me care less about the buffet and the videographer and more about the marriage? Well, I have the invitations picked out already.....
Time travelers, you have a new assignment.
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I had the same feeling myself. I always wanted to be married. There was a point that I felt I would never be. It was at this point that I started to look at myself and strove to be the best person that I could. Then two years later I met the person that I married.
Many people told me that perhaps I was ready, but they are not. Don't lose faith and be open to whatever comes your way.
Great Spin,
I know that whatever happens that you will be ridiculously happy and loved by many...man or not. :)
My cousin had this title in his wedding vows. I think too many people want a wedding and not a marriage, when it's right, you'll know it. You deserve the best and so you might have to wait a little extra!
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