tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881224561790150586.post8981804485762029509..comments2023-10-24T10:37:27.217-04:00Comments on gathering.dust: The best I can give you is the worst part of me....andreahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08604654206631020004noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881224561790150586.post-60606118005678110762009-09-20T14:49:07.395-04:002009-09-20T14:49:07.395-04:00OK, first of all, the same thing happened to me. W...OK, first of all, the same thing happened to me. While I was in my twenties everybody else got married, got pregnant, etc. And I continued to date guys who annoyed the hell out of me after a few months. However, I just figured I was never going to get married, (because every guy I met was not marriage material - at least not for me). I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but you shouldn't let everyone else's happiness necessarily be a sign of your failures by comparison. As tempting as that is.<br /><br />Your happiness should not be defined by how old you are when you get married. Half of your married friends will be divorced within 10 years, anyway. And THEN how happy will they be? So if you ever catch yourself moping, just think of THAT. (But not for long, it's not nice to think of bad things happening to your friends)<br /><br />Also? I didn't get married until I was 34, so RELAX already!! Don't make me come over there and shake you.<br /><br />;)Nanny Goats In Pantieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019800312349427823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881224561790150586.post-71435227302817821582009-08-14T10:41:49.257-04:002009-08-14T10:41:49.257-04:00I'm sorry I didn't get this sooner!
I tend...I'm sorry I didn't get this sooner!<br />I tend to find that life being lived cannot be edited. You can edit the hell out of a letter or email or even a post, because you're showing people what you want them to see, but when speaking off the cuff and just your raw thoughts are representing you, a lot of people become more timid. Even a phone can bolster confidence because you don't have to look at anyone. <br />Sometimes, you just have to take that leap. I used to be just this way.<br />In 1999, I took the leap and asked a guy out, something I had never done before. <br />In 2001, I married him. <br />Take a leap. <br />You're linked!Sprite's Keeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00790341033920919000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881224561790150586.post-26675961229907046172009-08-12T17:35:49.047-04:002009-08-12T17:35:49.047-04:00I like Jim's comment... (Thanks Jim, though I ...I like Jim's comment... (Thanks Jim, though I don't know you)<br /><br />Andrea,<br />You are an amazing woman, a genuine friend, and a helluva chart maker ;).<br /><br />Give yourself more credit - it's really not about you, it's about the fact that you've just yet to meet your Mr. Wonderful. He ***IS*** out there somewhere, you just have to search your heart to figure out where to find him. It's not about you not living up to some dude's ideas, it's about the dudes being duds. Have you thought about doing an online match thing? I know seriously like 3 or 4 couples that have met on either match or eharmony. And they are either married, happily together or probably going to get married after dating a little longer. It's better than the randomness of a bar-meet-up. Maybe you should try that, or speed dating. And perhaps blog about that too - let us old married hags live vicariously through your wild man hunt! We are all rooting for you to find your happiness that you so deserve!!!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398371431700000192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881224561790150586.post-29186409043743830512009-08-11T22:07:38.085-04:002009-08-11T22:07:38.085-04:00I don't know if any of this will make you feel...I don't know if any of this will make you feel better but...<br /><br />Remember: There are plenty of guys out there feeling the same way. But like the song says - "No one can fill those of your needs that you won't let show."<br /><br />Or how about this, from Jackson Browne's latest album, he writes about how friendship can often evolve into something more: <br />"A friend will tell you all kinds of stuff <br />That a lover won't <br />And you would think you would see love coming <br />But of course, you don't"<br /><br />Just try to keep your eyes, your ears and your heart open. Jim Styrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10671368781577441067noreply@blogger.com